You may be filled with anticipation or excitement but whatever the emotion, you are bound to have questions.
Each pregnancy, delivery and baby is different but the second time around you may feel a great deal more confident and reassured about the thought of raising a child. However, on the flip side, if you had a negative experience during your pregnancy or birth then this could be a very worrying time. Try to remember that just because your delivery was difficult, it does not necessarily mean that your next one will be.
The benefits to having another baby are numerous. You get to use all of your tiny baby clothes again, you have the amazing feeling of holding your newborn baby in your arms, there is no need to buy all the baby equipment again and you have a brother or sister for your first child.
Making sure the older child/children have some specific one-to-one time laid aside will make them feel loved and valued and will, hopefully, lead to a happy, balanced sibling for your baby.One thing you do need to consider above all else is how your next baby will affect your current child. Many people fear that brining home a new baby from the hospital will trigger a jealous reaction from their other child or children, however, this is not universally the case and many toddlers or older siblings absolutely love having a new brother or sister. Either way, it is important to consider how you will make sure your other child/children do not feel left out or sidelined by the time and effort you inevitably have to put into the first few months of your baby’s life. Making sure the older child/children have some specific one-to-one time laid aside will make them feel loved and valued and will, hopefully, lead to a happy, balanced sibling for your baby.
A big part of considering whether to have another baby is how you will cope with the labour. Fortunately, in most cases the second labour is quicker and slightly easier than the first as the body has become stretched and flexible from the first birth. If your first delivery was difficult, then it is perfectly natural to feel worried about what the next one will be like, and this is something that you can discuss with your midwife or doctor, who should be able to explain the different options available. One benefit to having already been through this is you will be more prepared and know what to expect at each stage, including after the birth and taking your new baby home for the first time.
You will have a better idea of what each individual cry means, how to get into a routine and what styles of parenting work for you and your partner. This can make bringing up your second child a less stressful experience and slightly easier than the first. That said, each child is different but the general outline of caring for a baby is the same.